What
does a bride do after her wedding when she’s missing the planning part and
finds herself with way too much time on her hands? Is there such thing as Post Marital Blues? Gratitude for any advice.
Sincerely,
Bride
feeling blue
My Sweet
Bride Blue!
Totally
absolutely completely normal!!! Most
brides who immerse themselves full swing into the planning of their wedding
will feel some degree of post marital blues after the wedding day has come and
gone. For some it will be more prevalent
than with others.
How
could you not? For 6-18 months before the wedding you likely spent 20+ hours a
week researching, contemplating options, looking through blogs and magazines, making
decisions, and then thinking some more and changing your mind. You probably spent precious hours creating thoughtful
bits and pieces to personalize your wedding, spent time playing over and over
again how the day would unfold for you and your guests, how you would look,
what your fiancé would be thinking when he saw you for the first time, and talked
endlessly with family and friends in anticipation of this most important day. Then all of a sudden it’s over in what often
feels quite literally like two hours when in fact it was 20 hours from the
start of hair and make up to when your head finally hit the pillow around 2:00am – time never
flew by so quickly!
So,
what do you do now? I’ll tell you what
you do!
You
enjoy being married!!! This is such a
special time in a woman's life when she can settle into a relationship that is committed, constant, and reassuring. Relish
in the idea that you have found a partner in crime to share your life’s journey. I know a few people who have yet to find that
kind of love.
Next
up, you wait in anticipation for the photos (and maybe film) which hopefully
capture that very precious moment in your lives to perfection. Complete (or begin if you have not already started) writing your "thank yous" to your generous guests and the wedding professionals who helped make the day what it was. You might collect all the resources you used
in planning your wedding and pass them on to a future bride in waiting. Perhaps start a Blog to share your insights
and best advice for those brides to be who might benefit from your wisdom. You
may even have a couple friends who are getting married who might benefit from a
friend who wants to get their hands a little dirty!
And if
you were that DIY/Crafty Bride who now has a garage or closets full of gently
loved wedding treasures that should not go to waste sign up for a table at
Bridal Swap taking place April 7th at the Roundhouse in Yaletown - http://www.bridalswap.ca.
And for
a small few perhaps you enjoyed yourself so much and were so successful at
planning and orchestrating your wedding that a career in wedding planning is in
your future - http://www.dgacademy.ca.
And if
after all that you still find yourself feeling empty or need to find something
to devote some time and energy into…. Why not start volunteering at your local
food bank, SPCA, or other favourite cause because goodness knows the world
needs more people to spend time helping others in need.
Congratulations
on this very exciting time in your life my darling! There are so many wonderful and exciting
milestones ahead that will all require oodles and oodles of planning, thought,
and implementation. The best is yet to
come!
Wedding Planner signing off! Until next week… keep those questions coming in! Submit your questions by emailing us at askaplanner@dreamgroup.ca
Cheerio,
Genève
Genève McNally, Principal Planner, DreamGroup Productions
Wedding Planner signing off! Until next week… keep those questions coming in! Submit your questions by emailing us at askaplanner@dreamgroup.ca
Cheerio,
Genève
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Genève McNally, Principal Planner, DreamGroup ProductionsGenève first began her wedding career in 1999 as the Catering Manager for one of Vancouver’s most sought after wedding venues, Brock House Restaurant. In 2004 Genève and college friend Sarah Shore ambitiously started up what is now one of Vancouver's longest running and most trusted wedding planning companies, DreamGroup Productions Inc.
These days, in addition to working with her clients in a full planning capacity and raising her two wonderful boys Harrison and Campbell with her husband, Genève focuses her attention on the sales and marketing aspects of the company and is most often the friendly voice you will chat with when first inquiring with DreamGroup. Genève is known to inspire and excite both clients and industry associates alike with her exuberant personality and joie de vivre! Her ability to be refreshingly candid and her in depth knowledge of the wedding industry have earned her the friendly moniker “Two-Cents McNally”. Genève also teaches the Wedding Planning classes offered through the dg Academy and is the chief correspondent behind DreamGroup's weekly Blog feature Ask a Planner.
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